Domestic abuse is too common. In the United States, nearly 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of some form of physical violence by a partner. Intimate partner violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crimes.
In Utah, 2 in 11 women and 1 in 10 men will experience intimate partner violence at some point in their lives.
That is nearly 20 percent of the women and ten percent of the men in the state.
These numbers are staggering, but likely lower than actual occurrences. Domestic abuse is underreported because many people think that, once it happens, it will not happen again. Sometimes, obtaining a restraining order is the best way to protect yourself and your children from an abusive spouse.
There are a few myths about restraining orders that we want to clear up to maybe make it a bit easier for you.
Myth 1: The person who files for a restraining order has to leave the property.
No, if you file, the person you file against must leave if you feel threatened.
Myth 2: If someone has a restraining order against them, they do not have to pay child support or alimony anymore.
No, they still must continue all legally required payments to you and their children.
Myth 3: The person who has the restraining order against them will not lose their custody rights, even if they are abusive.
No, a restraining order can help force child custody modifications. These are serious matters that the court will want to examine.
A restraining order is a tool for you to use to protect yourself and your children from a violent situation. Do not be afraid to use it if you have to.